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Embryo Donation Success Rates: What to Expect
Infertile families who choose IVF and achieve a healthy pregnancy may have additional embryos once they’ve finished growing their family. Many of these couples choose to donate their unused embryos to another person or couple for implantation. This helps other infertile families grow and supports the life of the embryo.
Infertile families who choose IVF and achieve a healthy pregnancy may have additional embryos once they’ve finished growing their family. Many of these couples choose to donate their unused embryos to another person or couple for implantation. This helps other infertile families grow and supports the life of the embryo.
Today, there are an estimated one million frozen embryos in the United States and approximately 6.1 million infertile American women.
Embryo donation success rates
The average pregnancy success rate using embryo donation is high. The embryo donation success rate for pregnancy is slightly higher than standard IVF implantation success rates. This is likely because the donated or adopted embryos have undergone preimplantation genetic testing. Preimplantation genetic testing is a procedure used prior to implantation to help identify genetic defects within the embryo.
Five reasons to choose embryo donation
The skilled doctors at Reproductive Gynecology & Infertility want to ensure you understand all aspects of embryo donation and how it can help you grow your family. Here are our top five reasons to choose embryo donation:
- Most agencies and fertility clinics have embryos readily available.
- It allows the intended mother to enjoy the experience of pregnancy and childbirth.
- It can be less expensive than egg donation.
- The embryo is already created, reducing a step in the IVF process.
- Embryo donation maintains neutrality regarding the genetic connection to the child, which is important to some couples.
If you are a women aged 25-40 and have gone through unsuccessful IVF treatment, you are not alone. The skilled physicians at Reproductive Gynecology & Infertility want to help you achieve your dream of growing a family with help from embryo donation—the success rates speak for themselves. Call us at 866-537-2461.
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Seven Ways to Increase Your Chances of Getting Pregnant
Approximately 15 percent of American women between the ages of 18 and 44 have a difficult time getting pregnant. If you and your partner have been trying to conceive for more than 12 months (6 months for women over 35), you may be struggling with infertility.
Approximately 15 percent of American women between the ages of 18 and 44 have a difficult time getting pregnant. If you and your partner have been trying to conceive for more than 12 months (6 months for women over 35), you may be struggling with infertility.
Genetic, environmental and lifestyle factors may affect fertility in men and women. However, it is possible to increase your chances of getting pregnant and have a successful pregnancy.
Seven ways to increase your chances of getting pregnant
Here are seven ways you can increase your chances of getting pregnant:
- Increase physical activity
Regular moderate physical activity has shown to have a positive effect on fertility. However, be sure you’re consuming enough calories and hydrating as this can counteract your efforts, lead to irregular menstrual cycles and restrict fertility. - Maintain a healthy weight
Women who are overweight or underweight may experience fertility issues. Overweight women are more likely to experience a disruption in the development and quality of the fertilization process and embryo growth. Underweight women have a higher risk of ovarian dysfunction, infertility and preterm birth. - Eat more antioxidants
Antioxidants like folate and zinc may improve fertility in both men and women. They work to deactivate free radicals in your body, which can damage sperm and egg cells.
- Avoid tobacco products
Tobacco has shown to have negative effects on hormone levels and lead to earlier menopause. Giving up tobacco products may boost fertility in women. - Lower stress
Participating in stress reduction activities, like yoga, meditation, journaling and spending time with loved ones can support fertility processes, like ovulation, in women. - Get the timing right
The best way to get pregnant is to have intercourse at the right time in your cycle. Women ovulate about two weeks before their period, which means you are fertile about a week or so before then. To help you predict when you will ovulate you can use over-the-counter ovulation predictor kits and track your basal body temperature.
If you’d like to learn more ways to increase your chances of getting pregnant, call the experienced reproductive endocrinologists at Reproductive Gynecology & Infertility at 866-537-2461. We offer both male and female fertility testing services to ensure you receive the best possible care for your unique situation.
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Fertility Clinic Success Rates and FAQs
If you’re considering fertility treatment, and live in Ohio, there are many things to consider before making a treatment decision. In addition to finding a conveniently located fertility center and skilled physician you feel comfortable with, it’s important to learn about—and understand—their fertility success rates so you can make an informed decision.
Fertility clinics with high success rates may improve your chances of conception
Reproductive Gynecology & Infertility (RGI) is proud to display our Embryology Lab Success Rates on the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology’s (SART) website, which demonstrate the quality of our practice. In addition to success rates that are above the national average for both fresh and frozen cycles, we also offer a unique IVF 100% Success Guaranteed Plan, to maximize your chance of conception without the financial risk. When you’re ready to make one of the most important decisions of your life, it’s important to look for fertility clinics with the following characteristics:
- Board-certified reproductive endocrinologists
- Medical malpractice records
- Skilled medical team with extensive experience in fertility diagnosis and treatment
- Fertility success rates
- Hospital affiliations
- Insurance coverage and finance programs
- Convenient location and hours
Frequently asked questions about fertility treatments
If you and your partner have been trying to conceive for more than 12 consecutive months and are considering fertility treatments, there are many important questions to consider. The skilled medical team at RGI is ready to assist you and has created a list of frequently asked questions to help you get started on your fertility journey.
If you’d like more information about the RGI fertility clinic, our success rates for your specific diagnosis and treatment or the IVF 100% Success Guaranteed Plan, please contact us. Our fertility centers are conveniently located in South Cleveland, Columbus, Akron, Canton, and Youngstown. If you’re ready to take the next step on your fertility journey with us, please schedule an initial consultation by calling 844-707-1296.
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What Is a Fertility Test?
A fertility test helps determine how easy or difficult it will be for a person to conceive. There are several different types of fertility tests, but most doctors begin with a simple blood test or semen analysis to determine a person’s fertility.
A fertility test helps determine how easy or difficult it will be for a person to conceive. There are several different types of fertility tests, but most doctors begin with a simple blood test or semen analysis to determine a person’s fertility.
Common fertility tests for men
Common fertility tests for men include:
- Semen analysis
This test examines the quality and quantity of a man’s sperm to determine whether there are fertility issues like low sperm count, poor sperm morphology or poor sperm motility that need to be addressed. - Hormone testing
This is a simple blood test used to determine the level of testosterone and other male hormones. - Genetic testing
This is a simple blood test used to determine whether there is a genetic defect that may be causing infertility. - Testicular biopsy
This is a medical procedure used to identify abnormalities that may be contributing to infertility. It may also be used to retrieve sperm for certain assisted reproductive techniques, like in vitro fertilization (IVF).
Common fertility tests for women
Common fertility tests for women include:
- Ovulation testing
This is a blood test that measures a woman’s anti-Mullerian hormone (AMH), which is a hormone released by a woman’s eggs that declines with age. It helps identify how many eggs a woman has left and how she compares with other same-aged women. - Transvaginal ultrasound
This is an internal pelvic ultrasound used to examine female reproductive organs including the uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, cervix and vagina. - Hysterosalpingogram (HSG)
This is an outpatient x-ray procedure used to see whether the fallopian tubes are open and if the inside of the uterus is normal. - Hysteroscopy
This is an outpatient procedure that inserts a small, lighted tube into the vagina and allows your doctor to look inside the uterus to diagnose or treat causes of abnormal bleeding. This is often used to evaluate recurrent miscarriage. - Laparoscopy
This is a minimally invasive surgical procedure in which a physician uses a small telescope-like instrument with a light and camera to examine the pelvic anatomy for causes of infertility. - Endometrial biopsy
This is a procedure used to collect a small sample of the uterine lining to examine, diagnose and treat abnormal uterine bleeding, hormonal imbalances or polyps.
If you have been trying to conceive for at least 12 consecutive months (6 months if you’re over the age of 35) and believe you or your partner may be struggling with undiagnosed fertility issues, call Reproductive Gynecology & Infertility at 844-707-1296 to schedule a fertility test. We can help diagnose and treat your infertility as well as help you along your fertility journey.
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IUI Vs. IVF: Which Treatment Is Right For Me?
For those having trouble conceiving, there are various options to seek or utilize that can help you get pregnant, some of which you can even begin to pursue on your own, like making changes to your diet and lifestyle to optimize your body for pregnancy. You can also work with your current OB/GYN or Primary Care Physician (PCP) to start with preliminary testing, such as basic ovarian reserve testing and a referral for a semen analysis.
About 1 in 8 couples in the United States experiences infertility. This number might seem high, but considering how many things need to go perfectly suitable to conceive, it’s not surprising.
There are many reasons why an individual or couple might have a hard time becoming pregnant, including factors related to ovarian health and egg quality, sperm quality (concentration, motility, shape), uterine health, and more.
For those having trouble conceiving, there are various options to seek or utilize that can help you get pregnant, some of which you can even begin to pursue on your own, like making changes to your diet and lifestyle to optimize your body for pregnancy. You can also work with your current OB/GYN or Primary Care Physician (PCP) to start with preliminary testing, such as basic ovarian reserve testing and a referral for a semen analysis.
For many looking into fertility treatments, two options become top choices to consider pursuing: intrauterine insemination (or IUI) and in vitro fertilization (or IVF).
For people struggling to conceive, an initial evaluation with a fertility specialist can help identify the root cause of infertility and factors that may be creating challenges. Reproductive Endocrinologists have extensive training and experience in evaluating problems that can interfere with conception — such as egg, sperm, uterine, or implantation issues — and are therefore best able to guide patients in choosing which treatments are best for them.
IUIs should be performed by a medical professional trained to do them. In most cases, IUIs are used in conjunction with medicated (oral pills) treatment cycles. IVF is a more involved treatment and should only be managed by an experienced reproductive endocrinologist (REI).
Below we’ll look at what IUI and IVF entail, the pros and cons of both treatments, and knowing which one is the right option for you.
What Is IUI?
IUI stands for intrauterine insemination. It involves having sperm injected into the uterus around the time of ovulation. This is done to bypass any potential cervical issues and decrease the sperm’s travel time to the egg and increase the likelihood of fertilization happening.
For whom is IUI a good option? It’s typically one of the first fertility treatments recommended for patients who have not gotten pregnant on their own within about six months to one year of trying depending on age. It’s a great option for those dealing with hormonal and fertility issues such as:
- Anovulation (lack of ovulation without help from medication)
- PCOS
- Cervical mucus problems
- Sperm quality issues
- It can also help same-sex couples using donor sperm, single mothers using donor sperm, and sometimes couples with unexplained infertility.
You might also hear IUI referred to as artificial insemination. IUI involves the sperm first being “washed” to increase its potency, then being delivered directly to the uterus.
“Washing” sperm means that a sperm sample is first collected, and then the sperm are separated to sort healthy, motile (swimming) sperm from the less healthy sperm and seminal fluid. Only the best quality sperm is used during an IUI; this way, there’s the greatest chance of the sperm being able to reach and penetrate the egg.
It’s essential that the individual is ovulating or just about to ovulate when IUI is performed because this is the only time that a person can get pregnant. Ovulation is when a mature egg is released from an ovary to begin its journey down the fallopian tubes, at which point it can be fertilized.
Before an IUI is performed, a doctor monitors the individual to track the timing of their cycle and ensure they are ovulating. Monitoring can be done using an ultrasound, which looks at egg follicles within ovaries, and sometimes with bloodwork.
Here are the basic steps involved in an IUI cycle:
- The IUI cycle begins on the first day of a person’s period and the egg(s) mature inside the ovaries for about the next two weeks leading to ovulation.
- Some people will take medications to encourage ovulation during this period. For example, medications (such as oral meds like Clomid or Letrozole or injectable hormone medications called gonadotropins) can be used to stimulate more eggs to mature and be released.
- In most cases, the IUI will take place on the day of ovulation or sometimes the day prior. This is determined using monitoring. A “trigger shot” might also be used to time ovulation since this medication induces ovulation within about 36 hours.
- A sperm sample from either a partner or a donor will be provided to the doctor’s office, then washed.
- The doctor/practitioner will insert the washed sperm sample into the uterus using a thin catheter. This is primarily painless and only takes a couple of minutes.
- After the IUI, the person will lay down and relax for about 10 minutes, and then they are free to leave the doctor’s office and go about their day. Hopefully, at this point, fertilization takes place.
What are the advantages of IUI?
Below are some of the main advantages of IUI:
- Less invasive and less expensive compared to IVF. A typical IUI cycle can cost about $1000 (depending on your insurance), while IVF can cost $20,000 per cycle.
- IUI Deposits the best quality sperm possible close to where the egg is waiting, which increases the chances of becoming pregnant in comparison to conceiving through intercourse.
- Uses monitoring to ensure that insemination happens at the time of ovulation.
- IUI cycles can either use medications or not, depending on the specific situation. Those who have difficulties ovulating, such as those with irregular periods or PCOS, can use medications to help release more mature eggs.
- Not using ovulation medication can help lower the cost. This is a good approach for those who ovulate regularly or who are using donor sperm.
Who performs IUIs?
IUIs cannot be performed at home without proper processing and washing of seminal fluid; however, some people may try intravaginal or intracervical inseminations at home, with significantly less success. Most often, people choose to see a medical professional for the procedure. OB/GYNs can perform IUI, which means patients may be able to work with their previous provider if they prefer (only reproductive endocrinologists can perform IVF, however).
That being said, patients often choose to work with a fertility specialist or an REI for an IUI because an REI can perform thorough tests prior to an IUI in order to gain more advanced knowledge of a patient’s fertility status and obstacles.
Specialists typically have cutting-edge technology and equipment and are capable of uncovering a great deal of information about the quality of one’s sperm, eggs, anatomy, menstrual patterns, and so on, which can help increase success with IUI.
How successful is IUI?
IUI is said to have “modest results” in terms of success, meaning it isn’t guaranteed to work and isn’t necessarily more successful than two healthy people having intercourse.
In best-case scenarios, it’s successful about 7% to 20% of the time per IUI cycle, depending on the woman’s age. If a couple tries IUI several times and does not have severe damage to fallopian tubes and has decent quality sperm, they may have a 50% chance of getting pregnant with up to six rounds of IUI.
Overall, success rates depend on the couple’s age, the timing of the procedure, and the health of the eggs and sperm. Individuals younger than 35 tend to have more success with IUI than those over 35 to 40 years old.
Are there any side effects of IUI?
IUI typically doesn’t hurt, although it may feel a bit uncomfortable. Some people experience mild cramping during the procedure. Afterward, it’s okay for the person to resume normal activities, as they’re unlikely to feel any significant side effects.
Side effects can be more noticeable if medications are being taken. For example, ovulation medications can sometimes cause temporary bloating, cramping, water retention, and breast pain.
There’s also a higher likelihood of having multiples (twins or triplets) if using gonadotropin medications with IUI since these drugs can cause multiple eggs to be released and potentially fertilized.
What Is IVF?
IVF stands for in vitro fertilization. It’s a fertility treatment that fertilizes eggs with sperm in a lab (“in vitro” refers to a process performed in a laboratory culture dish instead of inside the body).
IVF is one type of artificial reproductive technology (or ART). IVF aims to stimulate the ovaries to mature as many healthy eggs as possible in a given cycle in order to create embryos. In the majority of cases patients pursuing IVF choose to utilize genetic testing, which entails a few cells being removed from the embryos for testing prior to freezing. Through genetic testing, your REI physician will be able to dramatically increase the likelihood that the embryo being transferred into the uterus is genetically healthy and increase the liklihood of getting pregnant. There are many reasons individuals or couples choose to pursue IVF when growing their family, including various causes of infertility, wanting to utilize genetic testing on embryos, or moving on from other fertility treatments that have been unsuccessful.
The entire IVF process can usually occur within three months. Medications are first used to help eggs inside the ovaries mature, then as many eggs as possible are removed from the body with help from an egg retrieval procedure. The mature eggs are then mixed with a sperm sample in a lab (called insemination), hopefully facilitating fertilization and embryo formation. In frozen embryo cycles, embryos are then frozen to allow for the woman’s body to return to normal after stimulation within a few weeks. The final step is the frozen embryo transfer which occurs after the uterus is primed with estrogen and progesterone for approximately three weeks. In this minor painless procedure, an embryo is released inside the uterus with the aid of ultrasound guidance.
To summarize the steps above, a cycle of IVF includes several steps:
- Ovarian stimulation using injectable medications.
- Egg retrieval from the ovaries.
- Fertilization of retrieved eggs using a semen sample within a laboratory.
- Optional but recommended preimplantation genetic testing of embryos prior to freezing them.
- Uterine lining preparation.
- Transfer of the fertilized embryo back into the uterus using a thin tube through the cervix under ultrasound guidance
- Then hopefully, pregnancy occurs!
There are several additional treatment options available with IVF, including using intracytoplasmic sperm injection (or ICSI), Preimplantation Genetic Testing (PGT), or using donor eggs, donor sperm, or a gestational carrier (surrogate). Including any of these options into your treatment plan will all depend on the couple’s specific needs.
Who is IVF best suited for? Depending on the factors contributing to infertility, IVF may be the best choice and recommended as the primary treatment plan due to its significantly higher success rates than IUI. However, less aggressive initial attempts with IUI cycles would also be appropriate in many situations due to its less invasive and costly nature. In general, IVF would be a good first choice for those with the following conditions:
- Damaged, blocked, or absent fallopian tubes (the procedure bypasses the fallopian tubes, where ovulation typically takes place).
- Poor sperm quality (it can be successful even with very little healthy sperm, as explained more below).
- Prolonged unexplained infertility.
- Problems with ovulation that are not being solved with other treatments.
- Severe endometriosis
- A genetic disorder that can be passed down to offspring.
IVF With ICSI:
ICSI is a procedure only available during IVF and cannot be performed with an IUI. It involves having a single healthy sperm be injected into a mature, retrieved egg. Research shows ICSI typically fertilizes between 50% to 80% of eggs. ICSI is often recommended as a good option when undergoing IVF treatment if:
- The partner produces too few sperm to do IUI or traditional IVF (in which 50,000 sperm are used to inseminate a retrieved egg).
- Sperm aren’t motile, or sperm have trouble attaching to or penetrating the thick outer layer of the egg.
- There’s a blockage in the reproductive tract that is preventing sperm from exiting.
- Traditional IVF fertilization has not worked for unknown reasons.
- Eggs that were previously frozen are being used.
What are the advantages of IVF?
Below are some of the main advantages of IVF:
- Considered the most potent fertility treatment, it can help couples get pregnant when other options cannot.
- It can help address reproductive issues related to both egg and sperm providers, including egg and sperm health and problems with the cervix and fallopian tubes.
- It can help treat age-related infertility and prolonged unexplained infertility, which often lead to unsuccessful treatment with IUI.
- It offers the option of using ICSI, which IUI does not.
- It offers the option of using genetic testing, which IUI does not. This reduces concerns regarding certain genetic disorders since embryos can be tested before being implanted to identify genetic disorders or chromosomal abnormalities.
- It offers the option of storing embryos to be used and transferred at another time.
Preimplantation Genetic Testing:
One of the significant advantages of IVF is that it allows for genetic testing of embryos, including for inherited familial diseases, which IUI and other fertility options do not.
Called Preimplantation Genetic Testing (or PGT), this type of testing is performed to identify if embryos have a specific genetic or chromosomal condition. This way, those embryos are not transferred to the uterus, and the defect is not passed onto the offspring. The goal is to ensure that healthy embryos are transferred to the uterus in order to sustain a pregnancy and result in a healthy baby.
PGT also helps address the fact that one of the most common reasons embryos do not transfer and result in pregnancies is because of abnormal embryo genetic factors.
PGT may be recommended for couples or patients with a history of single-gene disorders, such as cystic fibrosis or sickle cell anemia, or sex-linked disorders, such as Duchenne muscular dystrophy and Fragile X syndrome.
How successful is IVF?
IVF now accounts for up to 4.5% of all live births in the United States and Europe.
The chances of getting pregnant with help from IVF ultimately depend on a number of factors, including age and overall health status, the underlying reason for infertility, and how many healthy embryos were created.
Like with IUI, IVF is most successful when the person providing eggs is younger than 35 to 40 years old and generally healthy. Overall, women between 30 and 40 have about a 40% to 50% chance of IVF working depending on several factors, and however, with the advent of PGT testing, a genetically normal embryo would have an approximately 70% chance of resulting in a healthy pregnancy in a high-quality fertility clinic.
Are there any side effects?
IVF involves using medications that can cause side effects, such as bloating, nausea, water retention, headaches, and mood swings. These are temporary and usually last about one week or so.
The egg retrieval procedure is performed under anesthesia and takes approximately 15-20 minutes. After the process, there may be some mild discomfort, including cramping, swollen ovaries, light bleeding, and tenderness. Following IVF, patients should avoid anything too strenuous, or that involves twisting of the ovaries.
Depending on the medications used in the IVF stimulation, there may also exist a minimal risk of ovarian hyperstimulation, which is a condition that can cause the ovaries to become temporarily swollen and painful, and in very rare circumstances, requires fluid to be removed from the abdomen.
IUI Vs. IVF: Which Is Right For You?
There’s a lot to consider when deciding between IUI and IVF, including the cost, invasiveness, time commitment, use of medications, potential side effects, and success rates.
An IVF cycle is more involved, invasive, and expensive than an IUI cycle; however, it can also be significantly more successful when IUI and medications are not.
If you’re dealing with infertility, your provider will help guide you through the process.
Your fertility provider will run tests to determine things like your egg and sperm quality and then be able to advise you on options that are most likely to be successful. Because every infertility situation is unique and complex, it’s best to listen to your provider’s recommendations regarding your treatment plan.
Is it worth trying IUI before IVF?
You and your doctor together can review your current health status and the specific conditions you’re facing to determine if IUI should be performed first or if it is in your best interest to move directly to IVF as your first-line treatment choice.
In many cases, if appropriate, your physician may recommend trying up to three cycles (sometimes up to six) of medicated IUI before moving onto IVF, assuming there are no significant obstacles that can interfere with IUI being successful. Sometimes certain insurance companies will require this before paying for IVF.
Some doctors may suggest that women in their 40s only try IUI once or twice before going to IVF, or even that they go straight to IVF to not waste time.
How do you know if you should do IUI first or go straight to IVF?
According to fertility experts, here is when to consider IUI before moving on to IVF:
- Try IUI first if your infertility is mainly related to ovulation issues. This includes individuals with PCOS or other forms of anovulation, plus cervical mucus problems.
- If the partner providing sperm has moderate sperm health issues but is still producing healthy amounts of sperm, try IUI first.
- Same-sex couples and single parents trying to conceive with donor sperm can also try IUI first.
- If the egg provider is under 35 or between 35 and 40 with no significant known fertility issues, IUI is typically done before IVF.
IVF may be a better option if 3-6 IUI cycles have been unsuccessful, or if the individual providing eggs or carrying the pregnancy is in their 40s, there is very little good quality sperm, or if there are known problems with uterine or fallopian tube function.
Family planning is another crucial element to consider when deciding where to start. If more than one child is desired, and advanced female age is one of the issues, IVF may be the best option in order to provide ample opportunity for fertility preservation through embryo creation. This future planning can allow individuals and couples to build the family of their dreams instead of enduring a long fertility journey that results in a significant decrease in the chance of additional successful cycles and future children.
Don’t forget to discuss these issues with your trusted REI so they can guide you appropriately.
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How to Support Those Struggling With Infertility
Deciding to start a family can be one of the most exciting life decisions a person can make. However, if a couple or individual has difficulty conceiving, joy and excitement can turn into stress and despair.
Deciding to start a family can be one of the most exciting life decisions a person can make. However, if a couple or individual has difficulty conceiving, joy and excitement can turn into stress and despair.
Unfortunately, infertility is not uncommon. This global issue affects about 48 million couples and 186 million individuals worldwide. So even if you’re not personally struggling with infertility, chances are likely that you know someone who is.
Infertility takes a mental, physical, and emotional toll on those longing to become parents. So how can you best support a friend who’s going through infertility?
What is Infertility?
Infertility is being unable to get pregnant after a year or more (6 months if over the age of 35).
Infertility affects all genders and can be due to several causes. Issues with any of the many steps that lead to conception can cause infertility.
For many people, infertility can occur when there are problems with their reproductive organs — such as the fallopian tubes, uterus, ovaries, testicles, or sperm. Smoking, obesity, alcohol or drug use, radiation exposure, genetic factors, and some medications increase the risk of infertility.
Infertility impacts everyone differently, and people may cope in various ways. It can be heartbreaking when someone wants to become a parent and is met with challenges.
You may be unsure what to do or say if your friend or family member is dealing with infertility. Still, there are several ways to support them.
Talking to Those Struggling With Infertility
When talking to a loved one with infertility, the most important thing is to let them know you’re there for them. Just asking how you can help goes a long way. Infertility comes with many complex emotions, so let your friend know they can talk to you if they feel like discussing it.
What Not to Say to a Friend with Infertility
What NOT to say is just as important as what you say. You may be trying to frame things in a positive light. For instance, saying things like “at least you don’t have cancer” or “at least you have freedom since you don’t have kids” is not helpful. But instead, statements like these minimize the pain of infertility. Just because infertility isn’t life-threatening doesn’t mean it’s not devastating to those trying to conceive.
Don’t Give Advice
Also, avoid advising on what they should do, like telling them to adopt. Adoption is a different journey that comes with its complexities. Your friend may not be ready to think about adoption just yet. On top of that, adoption can be a significant financial strain.
Fertility treatments can also be costly as well as mentally and physically taxing. So it’s best not to push your friend to pursue fertility treatments or tell them what to do about their infertility. In addition, you may not know everything they’ve tried or what it’s like to undergo fertility treatments.
Communicate Openly and Mindfully
Open communication is vital; you shouldn’t hide your pregnancy just because your friend is struggling with infertility. They’re probably very happy for you! But it’s a good idea to drop the news to them in private, so they have time to process it on their own time. You could even give them an individual heads up before posting about your pregnancy on social media.
Supporting a Friend With Infertility
Besides mindful and empathetic communication, there are more concrete ways to support someone struggling with infertility.
Learn About Infertility
Everyone in your friend’s circle may be curious about their infertility and ask them lots of questions about it. Yet, it can be exhausting to constantly rehash all the same information to different people.
You can take some of the burdens off your friend by researching and learning about infertility. Educate yourself about infertility and fertility treatments, like in vitro fertilization or intracytoplasmic sperm injection, so you’ll be on the same page if your friend ever wants to discuss it.
Offer to Help out with Tasks.
Infertility and fertility treatments are mentally and physically exhausting. You can support your friend by helping out with mundane tasks like housework or dropping off a meal. You could offer to attend fertility appointments with your friend or watch their pets so they can have time for self-care.
Ask How They’re Doing and if They Need Anything
The best way to support your friend on the journey to becoming a parent is to ask what they need. For example, some people want a listening ear to talk about it, while others require a mental break.
Remember to check in with your friend and say, “I’m here if you want to talk about it. What do you need from me?”
Don’t Be Afraid to Talk About It
While you want to avoid giving advice, don’t be afraid to talk about infertility. This is where you should let your friend take the lead. They may or may not want to discuss it, but it’s a profound part of their life.
Those struggling with infertility may feel isolated. Many of their friends and family are throwing baby showers and starting families while they fight a silent battle to become a parent. Let your friend know you’re here if they want to talk, and respect their medical decisions surrounding infertility. Don’t try to convince them to do something you may think they should do, and also respect their decision to stop treatments.
Hold Space to Help Your Friend Get Through Their Infertility Struggles
Infertility affects everyone differently, and it’s never an easy journey. The most important thing you can do is lead with love and hold space for whatever your friend is going through. Be a haven for them to laugh, cry, and everything in between. If you communicate with empathy, love, and honesty, you can provide the support your friend needs most.
If you or anyone you know is dealing with infertility, you don’t have to do it alone. At Reproductive Gynecology and Fertility, we provide comprehensive fertility care so those struggling with infertility can successfully become parents. Visit us at Reproductive Gynecology & Infertility to learn more about how we can help.
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Stages of Endometriosis
Endometriosis is when endometrial tissue develops outside the uterus, causing inflammation, discomfort, and infertility.
Endometriosis is when endometrial tissue develops outside the uterus, causing inflammation, discomfort, and infertility.
Stages of Endometriosis:
Stage 1 — Minimal
A few superficial lesions, or implants, on the tissue of your pelvis or abdomen with little to no scar tissue.
Stage 2 – Mild
Implants are deeper with some scar tissue.
Stage 3— Moderate
Multiple deep lesions, small cysts on your ovaries, and thick bands of scar tissue.
Stage 4 — Severe
Widespread deep tissue implants, thick scar tissue, and larger cysts on both ovaries
Diagnosing Endometriosis:
Your healthcare provider may perform:
Ultrasound
Imaging of your internal organs using sound waves.
CT Scan
Imaging with computer technology and X-rays to see abnormalities in the body.
MRI
Two-dimensional imaging of your organs.
Laparoscopy
Performed by inserting a tiny tube with a camera into your abdomen to assess endometrial growth.
Endometriosis Treatment:
Pain relief
Over-the-counter pain medicine to relieve discomfort.
Hormone therapy
Hormones to decrease menstrual symptoms and ovulation.
Laparoscopy
A small scope is used to find and remove endometrial growths.
Hysterectomy
Removal of the uterus.
What does endometriosis have to do with infertility?
20-40% of women with infertility have endometriosis.
Endometriosis results in inflammation, affecting the function of your reproductive organs.
It causes scar tissue formation in the pelvic area and adhesion-related distortions of the fallopian tubes, interfering with egg fertilization and implantation.
Contact Reproductive Gynecology and Infertility (RGI) to learn more about endometriosis and infertility treatments.